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For a person who is totally time and work oriented, who values time more than his life, who see future and manage it to get things done on time, who hate sitting idle and gossiping, who prefer to show things happen than tell how it can happen - but not able to get enough time to prove his thoughts and actually act upon.

I am talking about person life before and after marriage. A person who believes and values each second of his life to be spent in achieving his dreams for some good cause. But not able to march ahead or basically feels slowed down just as is not able to act upon his ideas.

This happens when a new person enters in his/her life, marriage being a classic example. The couple "need" to spend more time knowing and understanding each other. It creates a sense of dependability which a time-conscious person may not able to manage.

I know a friend of mine, Raj who is a typical workaholic and used to spend most of time in office. His average working hours are 14-16 hours with just 3-4 hours of sleep per day. Hey, don't get me wrong, he was perfectly managing his and others time and an absolute go-getter. He got 7 promotions in span of just 3 years reaching higher position which his fellows would normally take 10 years. You give work to him and rest assured it will be done. Full of ideas, innovations, ability to come up with solutions and a perfect gentleman with no complacent.

The turning point came after he got married. Being "good and a gentleman" his time now got shared with his wife and relatives. In a matter of 6 months, the equation changed. He now somehow manages required 8 hours per day in office with actual work of 4 hours. He spends more time at home and taking care of his wife, relatives and home. As a person he has not changed, but was not able to manage his work and expectations.

A capable person in all regards is now fighting with time to get things done. This adds recursive effect and now he is not even able to do his own job (responsibilities assigned to him) leading doubts in his own (and others) mind. This went on for 6 more months and he is now in depression.

Even though he discusses everything in detail and explains his role, responsibility, future prospects, better future of his wife, earning more money and respect, etc etc providing clear picture of benefits if he is able to work with full concentration and enough time (at least 8 hours per day) to his wife, but it is very hard to understand for others. Result? He started finding himself alone and in depression.

This is not a new story, but quite common for people who are not able to manage work and life. It is very easy to be an ordinary man, but there are people who are meant to be extra ordinary. If those attempts to live as ordinary man, they just can't!

~R